I've been thinking about how to announce baby #4 for years. Yes.
Years. I wanted it to be special. I wanted it to be as exciting and
wonderful as it was with the last 3. Remember this from 2010?
Okay. On Saturday March 30th, Doug suggested that I take a pregnancy
test the next morning. I told him that I didn't want to because I
didn't want to get bad news on Easter. He agreed. What he didn't know
was that I had been secretly planning on a very personal April Fool's
Day joke for Monday. I hadn't taken a pregnancy test but I knew I was
pregnant this time. On Easter morning I took the test because Doug
wouldn't expect it. When it came out positive I realized that I
couldn't wait even 24 hours to tell Doug. So I put my plan in motion a
day early.
I handed Doug an old negative pregnancy test that I had stashed in my
drawer. Yes, I know, icky. I placed it in his hand and retreated from
the room. I knew I couldn't keep a straight face. Running away was the
only answer. Immediately Doug began asking, "how old is this test?"
(meaning had it been 2 minutes or 20 minutes since I took it.) I began
to lose my nerve. I figured he suspected that it was an old test
because of the black mark in the window. I let him ask a few more
times. Then I realized there was worry in his voice and I couldn't hold
out on him. I'm just not that mean. I had planned on keeping it to
myself for at least 30 minutes.
I went back to the bathroom, retrieved the real test, then returned to
Doug. I placed the new test in his hand saying, "I gave you the wrong
one." The worry melted off of his face and was replaced by astonished
disbelief, then pure joy. I'm sure he didn't hear me say "Happy Early
April Fool's" as he hurried to give me a hug. It was fun as a joke. But
it was wonderful to think about the significance of Easter and all 4 of
our kids through out the day.
The next day I opened a fortune cookie and found this inside. Hmmmm.
Over the next three weeks we leaked to a handful of people. We knew
that we couldn't tell anyone else before we told the family. We
concocted a plan. Rachel's birthday party was the perfect venue for a
surprise announcement. Most of Doug's family was here. My parents and
Nanette were here via facetime. And my good friend Bethany and her
husband were here. It was the perfect time. The family members who
were not here all received this little video via text message. Don't you just love technology!
The plan was to wait 3 more weeks and announce publicly on Mother's
Day. In that time we had family photos taken. There were two
announcement ideas that I was still toying with. The first was a
picture of all of us reading books about babies. Our faces would be
hidden or obscured as our books were lifted up and shown to the camera.
It just wasn't possible with a rambunctious 2 year old in the mix.
However, I really like this one.
I loved how Doug was studying his book. He looks like he really wants to know "What Daddies Do Best."
The shoes won in the end. How perfect! The same shoes used to tell our
family are immortalized in our photo. Our due date is officially
December 8th. This little one will be scheduled for a c-section
somewhere between November 17th and November 27th. We couldn't be more
excited.
We had a ball playing with balls. (Yes, I know, too punny.)
The cake.
I made the smaller balls by warming Starburst candies in
the microwave for 3 or 4 seconds then rolling them into balls. The
dashed lines are flattened Starbursts cut into strips.
I learned to make cake balls just for this party. You bake the cake balls then bake them inside the cake. Surprise!
Each ornament was handcrafted with a vat of glue, my trusty drill press and a lot of love. I'm not going to describe each ornament. If you'd like more detailed info about something you see, just ask.
We filled the interior of the tree with ball pit balls. I drilled a hole in each one then glued a bent eye pin into the hole.
The chess pieces are cheap plastic spray painted in gold and silver. Again I drilled the tops and glued in an eye pin.
We wired the etch-a-sketch to the tree. I tried drilling it and released tons of aluminum powder.
Yes. I, and my husband, drilled hundreds of scrabble tiles. We painted the backs festive colors and sprayed them with glitter.
I love the bright colors of the game pieces against the green backdrop!
I took the houses from The Game of Life. Spray painted half of them red. Then painted them with glitter snow paint. I drilled a hole in the top and glued in an eye pin.
I traced the outline of the globe on large Christmas balls then hand painted them.
I took Rummikub tiles and heat embossed the backs with Christmas colors. The images are hand painted. Drill a hole, add a wire hanger, done.
I got the idea for the Tinker Toy Star from Better Homes and Gardens. I enhanced it.
I think these game picks are genius. I was staring at all these odds and ends pieces. I didn't have any concrete concepts for them. Then my eyes fell on some pick up sticks. Hmmmm. So I drilled holes in everything and we randomly put them on skewers. The picks sticking out of the tree added another layer of dimension.
The wheels of Monopoly money were made by punching holes in the middle of the money and putting an eyelet in. Then I fanned the money out into a wheel. I painted them with modgepodge, to make them last longer, then sprayed them with glitter.
Okay, so now that you've seen many of the ornaments close up. This is what the the tree looked like in sections. There are a lot more ornaments that I didn't show close up. Some neighbor boys used the instruction booklets and paper money to make origami ornaments. Some girls in my church made ornaments out of cards.
I have Rachel look herself in the mirror, punch her fist in the air and
say, "I am beautiful! I am capable! I am intelligent! I am
resilient! I am important!"
I use intelligent instead of smart because my doctor said that if a kid
thinks she is "smart" she might think she shouldn't take risks. You
know... Play it safe. Be smart. Sometimes I have her say "I am
worthy! I am loved! I am funny! I take risks! I can do hard things!"
So using short "I am" statements, what are some others that would infuse
strength and confidence into a child's soul? Ideas?
Anyone? Anyone?
We have done all we can, I hope, to help Rachel during this transition.
We bought books to help her learn about babies and being a big sister.
She loves the books and reads them most every day.
We bought her a baby boy doll so she can practice being a big sister. We rock him, hug him, feed him and love him.
We've also been teaching her how to help with tasks around the house.
She's been practicing letting the dog in, shutting doors and drawers,
putting toys and books away, getting diapers, moving laundry from the
washer to the dryer and then to the basket, and how and when to climb.
I think we've given her every chance to become acquainted with the idea
of being a big sister. Now only time will tell. I think she is going
to love it. Either way her new role begins on Monday.
This was two years ago. Rachel loved her brother from the moment he came home. Our biggest problem was she wanted to help TOO much. I was always told that two kids are easier than one. I'll be honest. After bringing home baby number two, I began thinking that everyone was lying. For the first 3-4 months it was exponentially harder to take care of two children. Now they are the best of friends. Don't get me wrong, they still have their squabbles. I once read that "the best thing you can give your child is a sibling." This is true for us.